Many times when people approach you in anger or frustration, they are showing you their pain. What you do with that gift is entirely up to you.
You can shoot back with your pain and your suffering which will only lead to the escalation of the other person’s pain and suffering.
You can acknowledge the other person’s pain and suffering, and, hopefully, move the conversation from one of violence to one of resolution.
The truth is that it is up to you.
If we can learn to reframe our view of other people’s rage and passion (especially as it pertains to this current political climate), then perhaps we can set ourselves up for more constructive conversations instead of destructive shouting matches.
Try the technique of acknowledging a person’s rage as personal pain the next time you’re at dinner talking about politics or the next time you’re trying to explain why you. parents the way you do or whatever it is you talk about that generally gets a rage out of people. <—run on sentence that makes perfect sense if you’ve ever heard me talk in person.
Ask questions. Be thoughtful. Listen to listen. Do not listen for your turn to speak.
See what happens.